Never feel if you’ve had big struggles in your life, you have to tell your date everything about your personal problems. Respect yourself enough to know you’re allowed some privacy. As you get to know someone, you build trust to tell them what you want to.
Don’t use alcohol to cover nerves on a date. Many think a ‘few more’ will relax them. The reality is, that can lead to bad choices. Nerves are acceptable. If you worry your nerves come across as being aloof, joke about the fact you feel quite nervous; they may appreciate the honesty.