A lot of drama comes from poor communication and confusion. Eliminate it by finding the courage to say exactly what you mean. It may be harder in the moment, but it can save a lot of heartache in the long run.
“Drama comes about because of either misunderstanding or overreaction. Be as honest and open in all cases as possible. Quell your own negative emotions, which will in turn diffuse the negative emotions of others.” – Vito Ruiz
“If I have an issue with someone I go straight to them to talk about it, and I don’t talk to anyone else about it if they aren’t involved. Gossip breeds drama!” – Kristie Sherman
If you don’t want to change how often you see someone who makes you feel stressed, recognise drama triggers. When the conversation moves toward their favourite horrible situation, steer it somewhere else.
Take an inventory of which people in your life leave you feeling stressed and unhappy more often than not. If you don’t want to completely remove a toxic relationship, minimise the time you spend together.
If you have gossiped about a friend and now regret it, let them know how much you regret your actions and promise not to repeat them. If they choose to forgive you, it may be a while before trust is fully re-established. If not, you may have to treat it as a learning experience and move on.
If your friend learns that you have been gossiping about them, be strong and apologise. Avoid making excuses. Explain that you now realise that it is both wrong and hurtful and you have made a determined decision to stop the gossiping habit.