Is a past hurt or painful memory fuelling your negative thinking? Choose to let go of that memory every time it comes to mind, and to forgive the person associated with it. Know that this takes time, and there will be days when you won’t feel like letting go. But when you do, you’ll begin to experience inner freedom.
You can free yourself from the mental trap of thinking negatively toward others by thinking “People are doing the best they can.” Choose to believe that they are not purposely trying to hurt you.
We can fall into the trap of all-or-nothing thinking, engaging in faulty interpretations of the actions of others. If things don’t go exactly according to our expectations, we immediately turn to the worst-case scenario. This is usually a distortion of reality.
If you’re a procrastinator by nature, what steps can you take to combat this? You can say something like, “I will limit my time on Facebook and Twitter.” If you’re disorganised, you could say “I will start using a calendar to track deadlines”.
Acknowledge and own the problem of negative thinking patterns. Understand that only you can choose how you react to your circumstances. Only you can challenge your negative thinking and change your life. Reclaim your power to choose a different response.
Be a friend to yourself and let a friend’s drama go when you walk away. A lot of the drama we experience in life comes from our interpretations of the things we experience – particularly after the moments have passed.
Sometimes what we’re labeling as drama is just someone who really needs us. Instead of using mental energy judging the situation as good or bad, focus on being there and being a friend in the moment.
Let people know that they can be honest with you. If someone thinks they need to walk on eggshells around you, they’ll likely hold things in – but those things will come out eventually, if not in words, in resentful actions.
A lot of drama comes from poor communication and confusion. Eliminate it by finding the courage to say exactly what you mean. It may be harder in the moment, but it can save a lot of heartache in the long run.