If you don’t have many external support factors in your life, you can still develop skills and attitudes and take actions that will help you become resilient against the stressors that you encounter. There are still things you can do to help yourself.
Help yourself to heal past hurts that might have lead to gossiping habits, by letting go of old wounds, forgiving the errors others have made toward you, and forgiving yourself for having given in to an age-old human vice.
If you’ve been using gossip about your friends to make yourself look better or to fit in more with others, ask yourself why you’d rather appear popular with strangers than feel loyal toward and contented with the friends who are a significant source of support, loyalty and trust in your life.
Make an effort to put yourself in your friend’s place when sharing information – as if someone were sharing the information about you. If you might be embarrassed about people knowing it, think about how your friend might feel; it’s probably exactly the same.
Feeling secure about yourself, having a sense of self-worth, and having a clear sense of self-identity so that you step away or create some physical or psychological distance from things that pull you down or give you stress, will help you be more resilient.