Put relationship situations into perspective: “I feel like I will have trouble trusting again. However, I know that one person out of the millions that surround me every day caused this. There will be others worthy of my trust.”
Did something good happen to you today? Write it in a journal. If you have a troublesome thought, write it in your journal along with a comment about how you’ll overcome this.
Peer pressure might not always be obvious to you. It’s not uncommon for a group of friends to have particular habits or activities that they do together. But when you’re with a different group of friends, it might be unlikely that you do those same things.
Peer pressure can be as simple and direct as someone telling you what to do. It might be a good idea to talk to someone you trust if you feel threatened, or if you are being hurt or pressured into something you don’t want to do.
We can get caught up in our secondary emotions around pain such as anger or anxiety, while blocking our most primary and important feelings, such as hurt or sadness. Sometimes you can experience relief when allowing your most primary and painful emotions to express themselves.
Focus on where you are now. What have you overcome? What resources have you used to get past the pain? Rather than venting, sink deeper into your most primary feelings about the situation and allow yourself to really experience them.
Peer pressure can be present at school or within a broader community. It can affect people of all ages and backgrounds. Peer pressure can affect you in a number of different ways: directly, indirectly or pressure from yourself.
Peer pressure might influence you in a number of ways, including: fashion choices; alcohol and drug use; decision to have a boyfriend or girlfriend; choice of who your friends are; academic performance.
Learn how to greet your feelings as friends rather than as a nameless beast out to destroy your life. Learn how to allow the literal physical feeling of your emotions to burn itself out, by simply feeling the sensation instead of judging it or making it mean something.
Sometimes the last thing we want to do is feel our feelings, because feeling can hurt. Many of us learned to stifle our sensitivity and emotion in a well-meaning but mistaken effort to protect those around us. Instead, it’s important we feel our feelings in a safe way.