We’re often afraid to show the messy, flawed, and vulnerable part of ourselves to others. It can be a tremendous relief when you do and someone accepts you just as you are.
To heal yourself and to build up your self-esteem, take one step above being like those who’ve wronged you, by looking at yourself with compassion and understanding.
Low self-esteem can have many causes, none of which are your fault. A traumatic experience where you haven’t received the proper support, or you feel judged or blamed for the event, or you felt lonely and abandoned afterwards, can lower self-esteem.
For every one negative “fact” you’ve decided about yourself, there are other tens of positive facts about you. Choose what to notice about yourself, and value the strengths that you have.
No matter how you perceive your looks, how smart you are, how wealthy you are, how many friends you have: you can build up your self-esteem because it’s up to you to give yourself value.