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Resist judging or assuming

It’s hard to offer compassion when you assume you have the other person figured out. Instead, let them know they are not alone. People overcome the forces of negative emotions like anger and hatred when the counter-forces of love and support are present.

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Read more about the article Choose how you think about things
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Choose how you think about things

People who choose the way they think about things, are at peace with the past, live in the present, and are optimistic about the future; and as a result are generally happier.

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Work on your thoughts

While you’re learning to identify and challenge your thinking patterns, it’s a good idea to write down the changes that occur in a diary or notebook to help you to develop your skills. This helps you see the advantages of working on your thoughts, and motivates you to keep at it.

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Challenge thinking errors

When you’re feeling down, try to examine your thoughts. If they’re negative or critical, challenge them. Once you get into the habit of disputing negative self-talk you’ll find it easier to handle difficult situations, and as a result you’ll feel less stressed and more confident and in control.

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Stick to the facts about feelings

Sometimes you might confuse your thoughts or feelings with reality, or assume that your perceptions are correct. Ask yourself: Am I thinking this way just because I’m feeling bad right now? Just because I’m feeling this way, does that mean my perceptions are correct?

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Be specific about the facts

When you over-generalise, you exaggerate the frequency of negative things in your life, like mistakes, disapproval and failures. You might think to yourself: I always make mistakes, or everyone thinks I’m stupid. Instead, be specific: What are the facts? What are my interpretations?

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Put it in perspective

When things go wrong, you might have a tendency to exaggerate the consequences and imagine that the results will be disastrous. What’s the worst/best/most likely that can happen? Will this matter in five years? Is there anything good about the situation, or a way to fix it?

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Create what can be

You always have a choice: do you drown in regret over what never came to be, or use your energy to create what can be?

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Focus on new possibilities

There’s nothing that compels us to dwell on the way things could have been. The only thing that keeps us stuck in lost possibilities is the refusal to focus on new ones.

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