Promise yourself that you will not repeat any gossip you hear and that you will stop yourself immediately if you find yourself starting it up again.
The further in advance you plan your trip, the more time you will have to save for it. For expensive or special trips, consider asking family and friends to chip in to your travel fund in place of gifts for holidays or birthdays.
Know how much you will need for each aspect of the trip – transportation, housing, food, tips, activities, and all associated fees – and then plan extra for unexpected expenses.
Once you’ve identified your obstacles, figure out how you want to overcome them. What tasks and growth can you do to make sure you’ll reach your goals despite setbacks?
You may be a disorganised person by nature, making it hard to keep up with things like student email and homework. You could add this to your ‘barriers’ list as something like, “Being disorganised reduces the time I have available for my tasks”.
If you are someone who hates change, then you are going to have to at least tolerate it when it happens. You don’t have to like what’s going on, but you do have to find a way to cope, because change happens, like it or not.
If the changes in your life are overwhelming, you don’t have to deal with them all by yourself. Friends, family, support groups, and counsellors are available, but you do have to reach out and ask, which can be hard. It may be a struggle, but you don’t have to suffer.
All goals come with barriers. It’s good to go into your career path with a realistic sense of what could potentially hold you back. Make a list of potentially barriers that keep you from achieving the short- and long-term goals in your career path.
If you don’t have many external support factors in your life, you can still develop skills and attitudes and take actions that will help you become resilient against the stressors that you encounter. There are still things you can do to help yourself.
Help yourself to heal past hurts that might have lead to gossiping habits, by letting go of old wounds, forgiving the errors others have made toward you, and forgiving yourself for having given in to an age-old human vice.