The complete list of all life-guiding messages for young people – click the titles for further information
When you are feeling badly, you are also often feeling out of control. Your internal state is often a reflection of your external state; when your environment is messy, you feel messy inside. Time spent organising your space is time spent building up your sense of control and accomplishment.
“Be thankful for what you have, you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” ~ Oprah Winfrey
Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates: Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind?
Put relationship situations into perspective: “I feel like I will have trouble trusting again. However, I know that one person out of the millions that surround me every day caused this. There will be others worthy of my trust.”
Did something good happen to you today? Write it in a journal. If you have a troublesome thought, write it in your journal along with a comment about how you’ll overcome this.
Peer pressure might not always be obvious to you. It’s not uncommon for a group of friends to have particular habits or activities that they do together. But when you’re with a different group of friends, it might be unlikely that you do those same things.
Peer pressure can be as simple and direct as someone telling you what to do. It might be a good idea to talk to someone you trust if you feel threatened, or if you are being hurt or pressured into something you don’t want to do.
A good way to distract yourself productively is to do something to better organise your life. Tidy your living or working spaces, your computer, your wardrobe or schedule regular exercise into your life. Cleaning your house can feel incredibly empowering.
Find a personally appropriate balance between dealing directly with negative feelings and moods, and escaping from them, in order to have the best chance of healing.
We can get caught up in our secondary emotions around pain such as anger or anxiety, while blocking our most primary and important feelings, such as hurt or sadness. Sometimes you can experience relief when allowing your most primary and painful emotions to express themselves.