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Not all introverts are shy. Some of them enjoy meeting new people, spending time with lots of people, and behave like social butterflies. The only difference is that socialising is tiring rather than energising for them. Lots of introverts prefer time one-on-one, and enjoy engaging in deep and close conversations.
Family conflict can be caused by: you feeling that you’re being treated like a child; feeling like they do not respect your right to privacy; changes in the family caused by separation, divorce, a new baby, moving to a new house or even to a new country.
Common causes of conflict or arguments with parents or guardians can include: when your own opinions and values are different; misunderstanding each other, jumping to the wrong conclusions, or lack of communication; wanting more independence than they’re willing to give you.
Learn how to greet your feelings as friends rather than as a nameless beast out to destroy your life. Learn how to allow the literal physical feeling of your emotions to burn itself out, by simply feeling the sensation instead of judging it or making it mean something.
Sometimes the last thing we want to do is feel our feelings, because feeling can hurt. Many of us learned to stifle our sensitivity and emotion in a well-meaning but mistaken effort to protect those around us. Instead, it’s important we feel our feelings in a safe way.
If you are leaving home because of family conflict or abuse, you might be able to stay at a shelter, if you cannot resolve the conflict. Leaving home is easier if your family will assist and support you in making the move. If your immediate family will not support you, you might have friends or relatives who will.
If you are under 18 and moving out, you may find it difficult to rent a house or sign a lease because of your age. You may need an adult (relative or friend) to cosign a lease with you, so they share the responsibility for ensuring the property is taken care of and you are paying your rent on time.
In family disagreements, some people lose their temper and become intentionally hurtful, aggressive or even violent. But there are ways to defuse the conflict and help bring about a peaceful result, even if the final decision is a compromise or agreeing to disagree.
Families sometimes disagree with each other and the occasional tension or argument is part of family life. However, ongoing arguments and tension can be stressful and overwhelming.
Most introverts care a great deal about people, but they prefer to engage with them one-on-one rather than in a group. Most introverts find small talk a little uncomfortable and prefer to have deep conversations with one person at a time instead of struggling to hang out with a large group of people.