To manage stress you can: learn to relax; take a deep breath; practise acceptance; talk rationally to yourself; get organised; exercise; manage your time; have quiet time; watch your habits; know your limits; talk to others about it; practise visualisation.
Sometimes the solution is obvious – you know what you need to do to fix the problem. Other times, the solutions are not clear and you’ll need to consider lots of possible options before you can find the best one. There are ways to deal with most problems.
Some think of problems as challenges; some see them as burdens that they are powerless to resolve. Your willingness & ability to solve problems has an effect on the way you feel, largely determining if you become frustrated, despondent or depressed or not.
Beating yourself up over lashing out at someone isn’t going to help you or the person you hurt. Instead, take responsibility for your actions, apologise sincerely (because if they matter, you truly will be sorry) and keep moving forward.
Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intention of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned.
It is your responsibility to bring yourself excitement, joy, and happiness. Depending on someone else to bring you these things is like putting the key to your happiness in their pocket.
Grudge-holders don’t always understand how much strain on themselves holding a grudge causes. It takes a significant amount of mental and emotional energy to keep the steady stream of hostility and aggression (or passive-aggression) that supports a grudge.
Many grudges are simply misunderstandings that people didn’t talk through. One person assumes something about the other person and labels it as fact in their own mind. Then they hold onto it, and pass judgement based on it, and then feel resentment.
Accept the reality of the things that have happened, but do not let them cloud and poison your heart. If you are to be a positive influence on the world, you need to forgive.
Sometimes, life is like a dark tunnel. You can’t always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but if you just keep moving, you will come to a better place.