The complete list of all life-guiding messages for young people – click the titles for further information
When your friend and your girlfriend/boyfriend don’t get along, it can cause tension and conflict between all involved. You might feel like creating a distance, taking sides or making your friend pick a side. This can hurt feelings and make the person in the middle feel even more torn.
To be a better communicator, don’t try to be the person with all the right answers – be the one who asks all the right questions. When you ask great questions, you show that you’re eager to engage and open to exploring more into the topic.
Offering reconciliation in conflict can be more important than actually coming to a solution; it shows the person how much you value the relationship. Clearly and calmly communicate what you want from the situation and listen to their views. Understand what counts as a ‘win’ from both sides.
If you can get your feelings and experiences out on paper, they can become less overwhelming. Looking back through past entries can help you to identify patterns, and give you ideas if you spend some time reflecting on what is keeping you stuck.
Set a timer for ten minutes, and write about your day until the alarm goes. Even if nothing at all has happened, you will most certainly have thoughts in your head that are dying to get out. Offloading conscious and subconscious thoughts helps the mind become clearer, and you calmer.
Ask yourself, do I want to pack and unpack this item when we move? This will stop you simply moving clutter from one place to another.
If you’re holding onto a possession purely because it’s expensive, and you no longer need or want it, you can use specialist websites to sell it, to recoup as much of your money as possible.
Be a friend to yourself and let a friend’s drama go when you walk away. A lot of the drama we experience in life comes from our interpretations of the things we experience – particularly after the moments have passed.
Sometimes what we’re labeling as drama is just someone who really needs us. Instead of using mental energy judging the situation as good or bad, focus on being there and being a friend in the moment.
If you do not have any other commitments, go out and do something like seeing a movie with a friend. If you have other exams to study for, postpone for a larger treat. Half an hour for a coffee with a friend or a quick swim will definitely give you the boost needed for the next exam.