Short messages on Relationships issues from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
To keep a conversation going, ask for their opinion on what’s currently happening in the room, current events, whatever you want to discuss, or inquire about “life story” topics like where they are from, and how they grew up.
Learn from the heartbreak. Find out what was the cause of the heartbreak and what you could have done differently to help prevent another heartbreak from happening. Becoming aware of the mistakes that were made will make you alert of them in your future relationships.
Take some time to enjoy your life. Rather than obsessing over how you felt before the heartbreak, make it a goal to find other ways that can help refill joy in your life. Watching a film, eating at a nice restaurant or meeting up with friends can help you refocus on the positive things going on in your life.
Find support in your family and friends. Let them know how you feel and ask them for advice and guidance on how to deal with the heartbreak. Only talk to friends who care and have been known to show support in previous situations.
Find a way to express how you feel. There are many ways that you can express your feelings, which can help relieve the heartbreak. Some ways include writing in a journal, writing poems, playing a music instrument, drawing art or kickboxing.
Many men will repress their emotions if they are not comfortable crying at the risk of being seen as weak or less masculine. Repressed emotions may keep you in a state of sadness for an even further period of time. Take some time alone to release any emotions you may be feeling from the heartbreak.
Wanting to ‘fit in’ is normal; it’s also normal to want to stand out. Everyone is an individual by nature; you can be both unique and able to ‘fit in’.
The biggest secret to being a good conversationalist is simply allowing other people to talk about themselves. It’s a subject they know well and feel comfortable with.
We judge others because it’s a lot easier than looking at ourselves. Unfortunately, it’s also completely unproductive and, in many cases, harmful. Judging others causes strife in relationships, and it prevents new relationships from forming. Perhaps even worse, it prevents us from trying to improve ourselves.
When your friend tells you they are sorry, embrace their apology as a way to move on from an argument. Do not keep bringing up the issue or continue reminding your friend about what happened.