Before you pass along more gossip, stop and think about what you’re doing. Make a pact with yourself to stop talking about friends behind their back for good.
If you talk about your friends behind their back, think about how it is likely to make them feel. Think about how you would feel if the things you’ve been saying to others were said about you by your friend.
by self-help expert Dr Pam Spurr.
I’ve got a really big problem with our society that gives the message we should all be extroverts. That there’s something wrong if you’re not the life-and-soul of the party. Simply not true!
We’re all made differently and I hate how some feel the pressure to be something they’re not.
That said, I’ve seen the devastating consequences of shyness. Where a shy person feels they can’t talk to someone they’re attracted to. Or make new friends, or put themselves forward for a project at school or work.
To gain perspective means you know how to change the meaning of a circumstance. Your new perspective changes the meaning of the event, which changes the feelings you have in response, which changes what actions you take.
Teach all family members to be responsible for their own mess. If you take it out, put it back; if you open it, close it; if you throw it down, pick it up; if you make a mess, clean it up.
Two skills are important for managing your workload effectively: understanding the difference between nonessential tasks and critical tasks, and knowing how to prioritise your tasks in terms of importance and urgency.
Make sure you don’t squander your effort with long to-do lists that are full of busywork. Each action you do should create some value; some more than others.
“Busywork” is work that keeps someone busy but has little value in itself – it makes you look busy, or actually keeps you busy, and passes the time despite being essentially pointless.
by therapist Catherine Knibbs.
Firstly, what are those? And how is this banter a ‘bit of fun?’
However good or bad a situation is now, it will change. Change won’t always be easy or obvious at first; if you learn how to embrace it, in the end it can be worth it.