There is a soul behind every Facebook friend. The behaviour and comments you post will ripple into their world and could have effects you will never know about.
by self-help expert Dr Pam Spurr.
There’s nothing like New Year to rock a new attitude. I don’t believe in classic resolutions though because people make massive promises they just can’t keep.
Instead below are small steps to put into action to make 2016 the best year for you. This begins with self-care. That’s the buzzword in the self-help world so get started in 2016 taking care of you.
Make a timetable for Christmas Day and schedule in regular break times when you can sit down and talk with everyone or play with the children.
When you’re having a special event, if you know certain people don’t get on, speak to them beforehand and explain how important to you it is to have a harmonious day.
If you’re worried your guests might not get on in the holidays, go for a walk in the afternoon to break things up. This gives everyone the chance to chat to someone different, or even to stay at home if tension is building.
You don’t have control over what others think about you, but you do have control over how you decide to internalise their opinions. Leave them to their own judgments.
Use your voice for good – to inspire, to encourage, to educate, and to spread the notions of compassion and understanding.
Christmas Day can be very demanding; don’t be afraid to ask your guests for help. Asking people to help can make everyone feel involved. Children really like to feel helpful, so get them involved with small tasks such as handing round snacks or setting the table.
Make a list of tasks that need to be done in the run up to Christmas and ask your family and friends to each put their name to something. Decorate and display this to show it’s importance.
If there’s something you don’t want to do at Christmas, explain why you don’t want to do it, and have a suggestion ready for an alternative. For example instead of taking on all the cooking you could suggest a ‘bring and share’ meal so that everyone takes a share of the work.