By responding passively, individuals are more inclined to portray themselves in a negative light or put themselves down and, as a result, may actually come to feel inferior to others.
Responding in a passive or non-assertive way tends to mean compliance with the wishes of others and can undermine individual rights and self-confidence.
Assertiveness is based on balance. It requires being forthright about your wants and needs while still considering the rights, needs, and wants of others.
“Assertiveness” is the ability to speak up for ourselves in a way that is honest and respectful, and helps us do the things we want to do. This skill can be learned.
Plotting against someone means you are spending your time, thoughts and energy on someone you don’t like anyway. Spend those things instead on yourself and the people you do like.
If you’re trying to get through to someone, take time to understand how they like to be spoken to so that you can talk with them effectively, in their language.
Have you noticed that the way you behave towards others, they often reflect that back at you like a mirror? If you change what you put out there, you change what you get back.
Doing bad behaviour to get attention often just brings the consequences for that behaviour. Try talking instead about what it is you actually want.
The best way to get someone’s attention is to ask for it. Ask directly and politely: “I would like your attention for something, are you free now?”
Instead of trying to be spiteful back to someone, break the cycle by behaving in a better way yourself. They may learn from this; they may not. Either way, it affects you less.