It’s hard to offer compassion when you assume you have the other person figured out. Instead, let them know they are not alone. People overcome the forces of negative emotions like anger and hatred when the counter-forces of love and support are present.
If someone tries to pressure you to drink more than you’d normally, or take drugs, or have sex when you’re not ready, set your boundaries. If they reject you because you say no, they’re not good enough to be a part of your life. Respect yourself and walk away.
If you go on a date with, or hang out with, someone that makes you feel bad about yourself – they’re not good enough for you! Don’t try and be “better” or fit in with what you think they want. Be yourself!
Remember that, whilst it can be painful, sometimes we have to move on from a friendship that’s gone wrong. You may not have all the same people as friends as you grow through life.
There’s room in your heart for more than one friend. You love your parents, grandparents, brothers and sisters. You don’t have have less of a friendship because your friend has other friends.
Never feel if you’ve had big struggles in your life, you have to tell your date everything about your personal problems. Respect yourself enough to know you’re allowed some privacy. As you get to know someone, you build trust to tell them what you want to.
Don’t use alcohol to cover nerves on a date. Many think a ‘few more’ will relax them. The reality is, that can lead to bad choices. Nerves are acceptable. If you worry your nerves come across as being aloof, joke about the fact you feel quite nervous; they may appreciate the honesty.
Friendships don’t have to be perfect, because no relationship is perfect. Friendships impact your well-being and mental health, so make sure yours are positive, healthy and supportive for both you and your friend.
Let your friends know what they mean to you, why you think they’re great, and praise their good qualities. They may not hear this from others, and they will value your support.
On a date, focus on them and ask what they get up to, where they hang out, what they enjoy doing. Showing interest in them is crucial to a happy experience.