Norfolk Police receive over 30,000 calls every year relating to domestic violence. Domestic violence is illegal and can result in prison sentences for the perpetrator.
Domestic abuse isn’t just about physical violence. It can include emotional and psychological damage as well – such as name-calling, threats and bullying. No-one deserves to be mistreated in any way by a member of their household.
Domestic violence affects 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime. You might see signs like bruising or someone wearing long sleeves in hot weather to cover up the bruises. Look out for friends who cut off relationships because their partner has told them to.
Men don’t recognise ‘hints’. If you want something from a man, ask clearly in plain language so there is no room for confusion. He is not stupid, just listens in a different way to a woman.
Men are good at focussing on one task at a time and understanding rule-based systems. Women are good at multitasking and empathising. Work together using each other’s strengths.
Women need to be made to feel special all the way through the relationship. Learn about them and their individual needs, and show them that you understand them.
Men have three basic needs: food, intimacy, and appreciation. Show you appreciate him and what he does for you by telling him and showing him often: make it obvious, and see how the relationship improves.
Men are initially attracted using the sense of sight. Women are initially attracted using the other senses: how he smells, how he talks to you, how he makes you feel good about yourself.
It’s likely that your partner’s bearing the brunt of your mood swings. Letting him know you still love and cherish him may help him to take your outbursts less personally. In your calmer moments, try to spend some quality time together. It will help to strengthen your bond before your baby arrives.
In a relationship, if you both share your inner dialogue, this helps the woman feel close to her partner. Women should let their partner know this; they won’t know unless you tell them.