Instead of blaming, take the restorative approach: find out what has happened, who was affected, how you can involve everyone affected in finding a way forward, and how can everyone do things differently in the future?
The restorative approach is based on the belief that the people best placed to resolve a conflict or a problem are the people directly involved, and that imposed solutions are less effective, less educative and possibly less likely to be honoured.
Source: Transforming Conflict
Message supplied by: Rich @ Respect Yourself