The only way to achieve self-love is to love yourself
“We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.” – Lori Deschene
Short messages on Positive change from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
“We can’t hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love.” – Lori Deschene
Use your body to help with difficult emotions. Accept they are there then breathe into them, relax large muscles and focus your eyes outwards on your environment.
Hating something is exhausting! Stop the struggle. Give in to the fact it is there, then decide if you can do something about it. Sometimes you can’t!
When something sad happens, allow yourself to feel the sadness without over-analysing. It will pass. Increasing your capacity to tolerate your feelings without repression is important.
People have feelings come up that are difficult to tolerate, and unconsciously send them away. This is known as repression. To avoid these uncomfortable feelings, our minds often employ defense mechanisms like pain or anxiety.
We asked celebrities what they would tell their younger self. The common themes: “everything will turn out okay” and “believe in yourself”.
Remember the phrase “What you think of me is none of my business”. Try to use this phrase all week whenever you feel judged.
You don’t need to bully yourself, pressure yourself, or scare yourself with your thoughts. The first step towards self-compassion is noticing these thoughts as they arise.
Struggling with internal issues creates more struggle. Instead, look at these harmless but scary demons head on. Try to talk and share where you can.
What happens to us does not define us. How we deal with what happens to us defines us.