Being listened to, and having connection with others, can be such powerful feelings that they can relieve even the deepest pain.
Empathetic listening and acknowledgement means giving someone the chance to feel like they fit into the order of the world.
Just because you’ve always done something, it doesn’t mean you are less of a person if you stop. It’s important to listen to yourself, especially if you’re doing something that’s making you sad.
Even if you make a mistake, there are ways to apologise and make amends. Don’t make yourself feel like a screw up, it’s just that you didn’t make the right choice that time.
You will face difficulties in school and life, and there are people around you to help you. There is no weakness in asking for help when you need it.
Make a timetable for Christmas Day and schedule in regular break times when you can sit down and talk with everyone or play with the children.
When you’re having a special event, if you know certain people don’t get on, speak to them beforehand and explain how important to you it is to have a harmonious day.
If you’re worried your guests might not get on in the holidays, go for a walk in the afternoon to break things up. This gives everyone the chance to chat to someone different, or even to stay at home if tension is building.
Christmas Day can be very demanding; don’t be afraid to ask your guests for help. Asking people to help can make everyone feel involved. Children really like to feel helpful, so get them involved with small tasks such as handing round snacks or setting the table.
Make a list of tasks that need to be done in the run up to Christmas and ask your family and friends to each put their name to something. Decorate and display this to show it’s importance.