The shift toward feeling whole is about loving the whole of yourself fully and openly. Not in spite of the flaws but including the flaws. It’s the parts of you that you don’t want to see, that are struggling to keep up, that need your love the most.
Recognising your wholeness does not mean striving for perfection. Being whole means seeing perfection and imperfection, hurting and healing, fear and courage, the shadows and the light, as parts of yourself. These are all part of your wholeness.
Letting your loved ones in to support you benefits both them and you. Humans are social creatures, and isolating yourself ends up exacerbating your pain. Connection is the antidote.
Does it hurt you to see your loved ones suffering? The same goes for your loved ones when they see you suffering. Don’t lock yourself up in your room and avoid others. Let them in.
When a stressful event occurs, it is normal to feel some level of stress, anxiety, sadness or fear. It can take time for you to adjust to changes and return to a normal routine.
There are many life events that can be viewed as stressful, such as being involved in, or witnessing an accident, being a victim of, or witnessing abuse or violence, or having someone close to you die. Any stressful event can affect your emotions.
Laughing makes it easier for you to remember positive thoughts and positive memories. It also has a relaxing effect, and will help to reduce body tension.
When you’re feeling anxious or down, you tend to have a rather grim face, and your thoughts, which are keyed to your emotions, are similarly grim. If you try laughing off your mood, you engage facial and body muscles associated with positive emotions.
If you want to feel more appreciative instantly, change your ‘I have to’ statements to ‘I get to’. ‘I get to walk across town’ will help you appreciate the the sights, sounds, smells and movement you encounter that others may not be able to.
We spend so much of our time focusing on what is lacking in our lives. We focus on being, doing, and having more in our lives. When we focus on more, we become blind to all we are, all we can do and all we have in our lives, right now.