Do you believe that if you don’t get it done exactly right the first time, you will fail and all efforts will be lost? Less than perfect is a perfect start – then build on it.
Plotting against someone means you are spending your time, thoughts and energy on someone you don’t like anyway. Spend those things instead on yourself and the people you do like.
If you’re trying to get through to someone, take time to understand how they like to be spoken to so that you can talk with them effectively, in their language.
If you feel like you’re not being heard, try saying it in a different way. If your current approach isn’t effective, try something else.
Have you noticed that the way you behave towards others, they often reflect that back at you like a mirror? If you change what you put out there, you change what you get back.
Doing bad behaviour to get attention often just brings the consequences for that behaviour. Try talking instead about what it is you actually want.
The best way to get someone’s attention is to ask for it. Ask directly and politely: “I would like your attention for something, are you free now?”
Using the same usernames for the places you visit socially online makes it easy for someone else to build up a picture of you and what you’ve shared with your online friends across interests.
Instead of trying to be spiteful back to someone, break the cycle by behaving in a better way yourself. They may learn from this; they may not. Either way, it affects you less.
Doing a spiteful act back to someone to “see how they like it” rarely has the desired effect of stopping them doing it again; in fact, they’ll often try to be spiteful back to you just for doing it back to them.