Sometimes when you lash out at others, it’s because you’re fighting against your natural feelings of hurt and pain. You’re bottling it up so tight, like a fizzy drink that has been shaken too much.
Your brother or sister may turn out to be your best friend someday. Many siblings fight and compete with each other while growing up but become very close when they get older. As you grow up, your friends might change, but your family is yours forever.
All children want attention from their parents, but sometimes you need to take turns. If you’re feeling ignored, talk to your parents. If a parent knows you’re feeling left out, together you can figure out ways to help you feel better again.
You can’t change everything, but you can always change something. Wasting your time, talent and emotional energy on things that are beyond your control brings frustration and misery. Invest your energy in the things you can control, and act on them now.
Tell the people you love how much they mean to you on a regular basis. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. You don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.
Try to talk arguments with your sibling out. This might be hard because they might be at a different maturity level than you. They might not react the way that you’d like, but there are a lot of benefits to discussing the issue.
Many times, small sibling arguments are triggered by bigger issues. They borrowed something and didn’t return it, or they told your parents about something you did wrong. You might think they get more attention, or that people unfairly compare you to them.
You are the only one who can directly control the outcome of your life. It won’t always be easy. Everyone has a stack of obstacles in front of them. You must take accountability for your situation, and overcome these obstacles.
Own your choices and mistakes. Be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Take accountability for your life, or someone else will – and when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams, instead of a pioneer of your own.
Siblings often compete over their parents’ attention. This is called sibling rivalry, and it could be the reason why you fight with your siblings – but it doesn’t mean you’ll never get along with your brother or sister, or that you can’t be good friends.