Focus on where you are now. What have you overcome? What resources have you used to get past the pain? Rather than venting, sink deeper into your most primary feelings about the situation and allow yourself to really experience them.
You may think that you’re no longer worrying about what caused the pain, but as soon as there is an open ear willing to listen, you find yourself retelling the story. At first this can help, but at some point you have to stop telling the story; you’re just re-opening the wound.
You can release your stories whenever you decide you’re tired of believing them. Are you ready to believe and do things differently?
It doesn’t take immense bravery, strength, or vision to change the trajectory of your life. It takes one tiny step in a new direction, backed by belief not in the destination, but in the journey and yourself.
When you see yourself as the hero of your own story, you radically transform how you perceive and treat yourself, how you view and meet challenges, and what you believe you deserve and can achieve in life.
Whether you’re looking to transform your professional life or your personal life, no matter how old you are or what you’ve experienced, you can be proactive, empowered, and committed to growth and forward momentum – not a passive audience member watching life go by.
If you eliminate “always” and “never” from your vocabulary, you will feel less limited and more confident in your potential.
“I’m not good enough”, “My parents really screwed me up”, “Things never work out for me”, “I’m too messed up”, “I always make the wrong decisions”, “I don’t deserve success or happiness because…”: these are all stories we tell ourselves.
When you change your stories – your beliefs about yourself, your past, and your present – you set the wheels in motion to change your life. Regardless of your unique life experiences, you can change your stories.
The stories you tell yourself about yourself may seem like facts, but they are actually beliefs based on interpretations of facts. That means that these stories don’t have to have power over you.