The complete list of all life-guiding messages for young people – click the titles for further information
Own your choices and mistakes. Be willing to take the necessary steps to improve upon them. Take accountability for your life, or someone else will – and when they do, you’ll become a slave to their ideas and dreams, instead of a pioneer of your own.
While you want to visualise the big picture and see yourself happily adjusted to a major change occurring, you also need to focus your energies on the here and now of the adjustment process, in your adaptation to the new reality that faces you.
Major life changes, like a car accident or winning the lottery, can “happen overnight”, but your adjustment period won’t. Try to visualise the stages of the change and imagine the end of the process, when you have adjusted to the new circumstances.
Siblings often compete over their parents’ attention. This is called sibling rivalry, and it could be the reason why you fight with your siblings – but it doesn’t mean you’ll never get along with your brother or sister, or that you can’t be good friends.
The hardest people to get along with can be the people you’re closest to – like your brothers and sisters. The relationships that you have with your siblings can be a lot more complex than those you have with others, which can cause you to get more upset.
You can take photos of your favourite places in nature to use as backgrounds on a mobile phone or computer screen, or print and put them up on your walls. Try listening to natural sounds, like recordings or apps that play birdsong, ocean waves or rainfall.
If you want to bring nature inside, you can: buy flowers or potted plants for your home; collect natural materials like leaves, seeds and bark to decorate your living space; arrange a space to sit by a window; grow plants or flowers on windowsills.
Learn to look at all of yourself from the most loving perspective. You are the exact right combination of experiences, insights, strengths, and imperfections that make a person whole.
Maybe you’re feeling like you’re not okay. You’re still whole. Trust in the process of working it out as you go and picking up the little gems along the way. No part of this needs to be perfect. Take any step in the direction that feels closer to whole.
Some changes will be very unexpected. Accept it as a new chapter in your life; as a fresh opportunity to gain knowledge or experience in a new area, or a chance to discover new people, new places and new skills.