Short messages on Positive change from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
“You can’t always wait for the perfect moment. Sometimes you must let go and dare to do it because life is too short to wonder what could have been.” – Marc & Angel Chernoff
Don’t let others convince you that you aren’t strong enough and smart enough. You are. Surround yourself with people who help strengthen you – those who see greatness in you, even when you don’t see it in yourself.
Emotional intelligence consists of four attributes: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and relationship management.
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathise with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict.
Your ability to divert your attention from activities of lower value to activities of higher value is central to everything you accomplish in life.
When others can’t do something themselves, they’re going to tell you that you can’t do it either; and that’s a lie. These people are simply speaking from within the boundaries of their own limitations.
Think about your friends and your boyfriend/girlfriend. Ask yourself: What should a healthy relationship provide for the people in it?
Surround yourself with people who inspire you to smile. People who help you up when you’re down. People who would never take advantage of you. People who are honest and genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life.
As you grow older, be mindful to be less reactive and dependent on the behaviour and thoughts of others – it’s more important to set your own standards for yourself.
If you are used to telling yourself that you’re ugly, that you are destined to fail, and that you’re not capable of performing in the world without someone holding your hand, then you will accept and feel most comfortable in relationships with people who reinforce these same negative beliefs.