Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a type of talking therapy that helps you to understand your thoughts, feelings and behaviour and helps you to think about things differently. You work with a therapist to find ways to change the way you think and behave.
Think of why you’re friends with your best friend: is it how they look, or because they are kind/funny/loyal/clever? This is what people are valued for.
The things that drain your energy, cause you distress, or add extra work without extra benefit are holding you back from identifying your dreams and making them real.
You can achieve body confidence by having a realistic and positive body image. You can read our previous messages on body image in our Body Image category.
Change the way you speak so you focus on “who” you are, not “what” you are – that helps others too. Focus on positives.
“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing. Failure is an opportunity to begin again more intelligently.” – Henry Ford
If you define yourself by what others think of you, you’ll never keep up. “Who I am” has to come from within.
“Drama usually comes from my reaction to other people’s actions. I stop to think: Does this really matter in the long run, or am I just trying to be right?” – Anita Grimm-Hohl
Body confidence is a skill that you can learn like any other, through practice. It’s a mindset about accepting the body you’ve been given, and creating a positive, supportive mindset and attitude.
Instead of creating drama, find alternative solutions. If you’re looking for attention, can you get it more directly? If you’re bored, what new adventure can you create in your life?