You may see small mistakes as evidence that you’re unworthy. You may interpret your challenges as proof that you’re incompetent. Neither of these things are true, and you don’t have to believe them.
Byron Katie said “It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine.” There’s a difference between depending on people for support and depending on them for self-esteem.
Healthy self-esteem requires self-understanding, acceptance, and forgiveness, plus large doses of self-compassion. It needs ongoing vigilance and upkeep until you’ve formed healthier habits of self-esteem.
Self-esteem rises when you know you can trust yourself, when you trust your own instincts and intuition over the ideas of others, and when you’ve proven to yourself that you can face disappointment and frustration without becoming destabilised.
Cultivate extra self-confidence by choosing one item from your “strengths list” and honing it further until it turns into something you can be even more proud of. Actively direct your attention to creating the kind of experiences you want in life and becoming the person you want to be.