It’s easy to forget to make time for yourself when things get stressful, so make sure you don’t get so pre-occupied that days can go by without you doing anything for yourself.
You may see small mistakes as evidence that you’re unworthy. You may interpret your challenges as proof that you’re incompetent. Neither of these things are true, and you don’t have to believe them.
Byron Katie said “It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine.” There’s a difference between depending on people for support and depending on them for self-esteem.
Mourn your mistakes fully, learn from them, and make amends where possible. Then forgive yourself, and let go of the past so that you can move forward, knowing you’ve done your best.
Shame vanishes when you receive support and understanding from others. We must stop trying to appear perfect by keeping our perceived flaws a secret and going it alone.
We’re often afraid to show the messy, flawed, and vulnerable part of ourselves to others. It can be a tremendous relief when you do and someone accepts you just as you are.
“Even the most troubled among us can begin to regain footing.” – Katharine Di Cerbo
Being listened to, and having connection with others, can be such powerful feelings that they can relieve even the deepest pain.
Empathetic listening and acknowledgement means giving someone the chance to feel like they fit into the order of the world.
Just because you’ve always done something, it doesn’t mean you are less of a person if you stop. It’s important to listen to yourself, especially if you’re doing something that’s making you sad.