Short messages on Positive change from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
Body confidence is a skill that you can learn like any other, through practice. It’s a mindset about accepting the body you’ve been given, and creating a positive, supportive mindset and attitude.
Instead of creating drama, find alternative solutions. If you’re looking for attention, can you get it more directly? If you’re bored, what new adventure can you create in your life?
Learning and recognising your emotional triggers is one of the first steps to learning better self-management skills. When you are able to learn your triggers, you’ll start to recognise them when they happen. When you recognise them, you can start to use a new strategy to manage them.
“You get what you push out. If you act in a way that is positive and minimal drama, you attract the same kind of positive situations and people.” – April Myers
Pay attention to the unnecessary things in your life, and work to eliminate them. Use your newfound time to further your goals one task at a time.
It can be easier to blame the world and stay the same, than really see yourself and make a change.
There’s more right with you than wrong with you. Instead of zooming in on all of your perceived flaws, it helps to remember that there are lots of things to like about yourself too – like the fact that you are able to pave new paths whenever you choose.
Don’t believe everything you think; your mind can be a very convincing liar. Thoughts are just thoughts, and it’s unhealthy and exhausting to give so much power to the negative ones.
You don’t need money, goods or branded clothes to make you happy. You shouldn’t wait for later, “when I have that house”, “when I have that job”, “when I’ll be with X”. Happiness is here, now. You only need to open your eyes and look for it.
When you look at other people through a lens of compassion and understanding rather than judgment and jealousy, you are better able to see them for what they are – human beings. They are beautifully imperfect human beings going through the same universal challenges that we all go through.