Breaking through your obstacles
Today may be your time to get through your obstacles. However, tomorrow will be the time when you have gotten through your obstacles.
Short messages on Self-esteem and body confidence issues from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
Today may be your time to get through your obstacles. However, tomorrow will be the time when you have gotten through your obstacles.
Everything has a season. There is a time and purpose for everything we do. It is how you deal with that particular season that will show your true character, your true self.
Loving yourself is not an ego-building exercise. It is putting the negative self image away and realising that the person you are is worth loving.
Take pride in whatever activity you do. Even the smallest thing will be noticed and will show in the quality of output.
Low self esteem will come from being mistreated. Never allow someone to affect how you see yourself.
People often assess you from your appearance, as they see this before they speak to you. It takes little effort to shower, scrub up and smell nice each day, but can make the world of difference – you don’t know who you’ll meet today!
If you live in the shadow of an expert, it can lower your self-esteem if you compare yourself to their standards. This is an unrealistic viewpoint – it has taken them years and lots of learning to get as good as they are, and you should expect to do the same. Instead, let them help you avoid the mistakes they made along the way.
Criticising people doesn’t have the effect you may think it does. Over time, you may have noticed that most of the people whose faults you have gone to such trouble to correct have improved much less than you would have expected. Being less critical and focusing on what has gone ‘right’ is far more effective in getting people to improve what they are doing.
Sometimes we try to criticise others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive, and makes an enemy when you could be making a friend.
Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don’t brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.