Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary mood.
Responding in a passive or non-assertive way tends to mean compliance with the wishes of others and can undermine individual rights and self-confidence.
When you are living in the moment, you know that this moment leads to the next one; that life is a series of connected moments. You make conscious decisions – based on your beliefs and values – and you take responsibility for your choices.
When you are living for the moment, there are no potential consequences. You do something that makes you feel good right now, in this moment. But often, it’s a surprise to find out that there are consequences to pay.
Assertiveness is based on balance. It requires being forthright about your wants and needs while still considering the rights, needs, and wants of others.
“Assertiveness” is the ability to speak up for ourselves in a way that is honest and respectful, and helps us do the things we want to do. This skill can be learned.
Mindfulness enables you to experience and appreciate your life instead of rushing through it, constantly trying to ‘be’ somewhere else – including dwelling in the past, or in the future.
Never doubt yourself. Doubt is only a thought and feeling. Break through the barrier of doubt to better yourself. Doubts are part of life; act in spite of them.
Create a charter as a school or group to make bullying unacceptable. Define rules and guidelines for how you should all treat each other and work together to make a positive difference everyday.
You can’t please all the people all of the time; it can be liberating to let people think whatever they want – they’re going to do it anyway. Accept it. Then let it go!