The complete list of all life-guiding messages for young people – click the titles for further information
Ask yourself what talking about others says about you. Consider how you end up looking when you talk about friends behind their back; the friends you gossip to may not trust you with personal information in the future and may distance themselves from you.
Mentally or physically excuse yourself from a conversation that becomes too full of gossip, to avoid falling into gossip games or socialising-by-demoralising. Leave any conversation that stoops to the level of gossiping.
You can either make a list of what you have, or you can make a list of what you do not have. The first list will bring you peace and happiness, while the second list will bring you only sadness. Being sad and focusing on what we do not have does not change the circumstances.
If you’re hurting, give yourself the necessary space and time to hurt, and be open about it. Talk to those closest to you, and tell them the truth about how you feel. Let them listen.
Learn to love and value things when they are less than perfect. You can accept and appreciate the world as it is, and people as they are, rather than to trying to make everything and everyone conform to an impossible ideal.
Forgiveness is for you, not the person you are forgiving. More often than not, the person you are forgiving will never know you’ve forgiven them. It is a gift you need to give yourself.
You can start ecotherapy on your own or with a group. Sessions often include some type of formal therapy, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) or other talking treatment. You can find activities near you through the online Ecotherapy Directory (http://bit.ly/28ncBk5).
People join ecotherapy programmes because it can improve mental and physical health, develops your social life, build your confidence, strengthen your connection with nature and help you practise mindfulness.
Revenge as a motivation for doing anything is always a total fail. It reveals a lack of self-respect, a lack of respect for others and a lack of self-restraint or personal responsibility for your actions.
Talking about others’ secrets can get the conversation started and feel exciting, but shows a lack of creativity in your conversation skills. Soothing boredom with your friend’s information is both lazy and disloyal.