Short messages on Positive change from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
Forgiveness is letting go of the pain and accepting what has happened, because it will not change. Forgiveness is dismissing the blame. Choices were made that caused the hurt; we each could have chosen differently, but we didn’t. Forgiveness is looking at the pain, learning the lessons it has produced, and understanding what we have learned.
Scheduling is the process by which you look at the time available to you, and plan how you will use it to achieve the goals you have identified.
It is okay to ask for help with your personal issues. Everyone is human, and no-one is expecting you to be a superstar in coping with something you feel you can’t or don’t know how to overcome on your own.
Forgiveness does not mean that you let anyone off the hook, it means that your present happiness is more important than your past suffering. Forgiveness does not mean that you condone the hurtful things done to you, it means that you reclaim your right to run your own life.
The earlier you do homework or chores, the sooner they are complete. This allows you to use the remainder of your free time for relaxing or other activities without running out of time before the deadline.
There are three aspects of forgiveness: forgiving ourselves, being forgiven and forgiving others. Forgiveness resolves the past so you can live happily in the present.
Don’t focus on how you rank in comparison to others – life is not a competition, it’s a journey. We are all on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what you want to do, and where you want to go.
Knowing someone else’s personal motivation for wanting to do something allows you to work towards a win-win situation if you can match it to yours.
The more responsibility you have at work, the more empowered you will feel and the more valuable you will become.
Separating yourself from the story of your past allows you to create the space needed to swivel your attention to living a better present and a happier future of your own creation.