Short messages on Positive change from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
Criticising people doesn’t have the effect you may think it does. Over time, you may have noticed that most of the people whose faults you have gone to such trouble to correct have improved much less than you would have expected. Being less critical and focusing on what has gone ‘right’ is far more effective in getting people to improve what they are doing.
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If you feel you are not performing well at work, find out how you can do it better. Ask for help and support. This also shows your boss that you want to do well.
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Understand that the past cannot and will not define how you live your present. Nor does it own or define you. However habituated you’ve become to blocking the past out, you no longer need to be prey to your difficult history.
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Sometimes we try to criticise others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive, and makes an enemy when you could be making a friend.
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Sunday’s are stereotypically slower, lazy days where time is often wasted instead of spent. Instead of wasting your time on a Sunday, spend it. If you have the time, do something you enjoy. Do those jobs you never get around to, or spend it with family. Fill the day.
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Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don’t brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.
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In the end, only kindness matters by Jennifer
Someone may respond to you in a negative way you didn’t expect. Understand that the response may not have been caused by you, so instead of taking it personally, show understanding and compassion for their situation and see how you can help.
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Baby, Mother, Grandmother and Great-Grandmother
Instead of comparing yourself to others – especially people you think of as being better/smarter/more beautiful than you in some way – compare yourself to your past self. See how you are a different person, how you have grown and how you do things differently now to how you did 3 or 5 years ago.
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If you feel you are too much in your own thoughts, let your world revolve around others for a day. See the world through their eyes; let their concerns be yours, and see if you can use your own skills to help with the problems that are concerning them.
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Compassion is a feeling of deep sympathy and sorrow for the suffering or misfortune of another, including the desire to make it better.
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