We often create fears based on past experiences and blow them out of proportion. They’re not always grounded in reality. Even when they are justifiable, they’re not the things that create us – we create ourselves with what we tell ourselves and how we act.
If you’re feeling stressed, sometimes getting some space and a change of scenery can be helpful. It’s important to give yourself permission to do this regularly. Go for a walk, listen to music, read a book, or go to the cinema – whatever works for you.
The Universe does not owe you anything. Be grateful for any blessings that you have. Do not let anything slip away. No matter what happens, try to enjoy the life you have. No-one else can enjoy it for you.
Sometimes expectations are focused on one outcome and if you don’t meet it, you might feel disappointed or like you’ve failed…but usually there are a number of ways to achieve a goal. Try to have a couple of strategies for achieving your goals.
Sometimes it can be helpful to re-think your own expectations. This can help you decide if your goals are achievable. It can help to ask yourself, “What would I suggest to a friend in this situation?”
Sometimes a person who is setting unreasonable expectations might be unaware that they are putting unfair pressure on you. When you talk to them, it might be helpful to say something like “When you treat me like this, then I feel…”
If you’re feeling pressured, talk to someone outside the situation, like a friend, parent or teacher. They are in a good position to help you identify expectations and help you work out strategies to deal with them.
Provide support when it makes sense, even when people are cold and unfriendly. Some people are rude and complain as an unconcious way of crying for help. Do something nice for them. An “Are you okay?” or “Is there anything I can do to help you?” can sometimes do wonders.
Nothing is perfect; the world itself is not perfect, nor anyone in it. Accept your flaws. Admit your mistakes. Don’t hide and don’t lie. Deal with the truth, learn the lessons, endure the consequences of reality, and move on.
It’s hard to move forward in your life when your past is crowding your present. Imagine how much richer life would be if you moved the junk out and made room for new opportunities.