“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
The overwhelming feelings you can experience as a teenager can either get easier as you get older, or you learn to control and deal with them better.
Don’t dismiss childrens’ feelings. Listen to them and support them; be open and honest. You’ll be able to discuss feelings, and they won’t be afraid to speak out about anything that is happening to them.
“The source of love is deep in us and we can help others realize a lot of happiness. One word, one action, one thought can reduce another person’s suffering and bring that person joy.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
Even when you are stressed, tired, beyond your limits and dealing with your own feelings, taking it out on others can have a huge impact on how they feel and behave.
Be open to your feelings and how they change, and also be aware of the effect of your behaviour on others. People sometimes forget that our behaviour can really affect how others feel.
Your experience of feelings will adapt, change and grow throughout your entire life – after puberty, in your 20’s, 30’s, after marriage, relationships, children, divorce and so on. All these life experiences change your understanding of feelings and your priorities.
Some feelings need reflecting on. Never post online when you are angry – wait and write it calmly. With negative feelings it can be best to wait, reflect and not act hastily.
Be kind to yourself. Loving yourself and valuing your own feelings is important.
When teaching your children about sex, periods, life, money, jobs and so on, make sure you discuss the emotional side as well as all the practical advice.