Introverts enjoy thinking, exploring their thoughts and feelings, with a desire to be quietly introspective. Conversations are considered, and generally about ideas and concepts.
Extroverts tend to think as they speak, and are typically good at approaching new people and making social “chit chat”. Concepts don’t seem real unless they can talk about them.
An introvert is likely to enjoy time spent alone and find less reward in time spent with large groups of people. They prefer to concentrate on a single activity at a time and like to observe situations before they participate. They are more analytical before speaking.
Extroverts enjoy human interactions and are enthusiastic and talkative, taking pleasure in activities that involve large social gatherings – they tend to be energised when around other people.
‘Bad’ behaviour is often caused by an unfulfilled need. Addressing the need is often a much more effective strategy than addressing the behaviour.
If you move away from labelling someone as being inherently ‘bad’ and beyond redemption, this gives you and them the space to behave in better ways.
Instead of thinking of someone as ‘good’ or ‘bad’, think of them as sometimes being ‘in-balance’ and sometimes ‘out-of-balance’. Everyone is capable of both.
When you reflect on your day or week, make sure you can say “I am glad I did that” rather than “I wish I’d done that”.
Most days involve doing things we don’t really want to do, and also doing things we do want to do. If you get the bits you don’t want to do out of the way first, the rest of the day will be spent doing things you enjoy doing.
Arguments are a “you versus me” battle and almost always have the goal of one participant winning and the other losing. Relationships, however, are not built on opposition. Meaningful relationships consist of two players who are on the same team and should work toward a common goal. Try to make the goal be achieving resolution, rather than winning.