Short messages on Relationships issues from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
If you push someone too far, they will react to the pushing, not about what you are arguing for. Persuasiveness is more effective than force; gentleness does more than violence.
William Arthur Ward said “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” Showing someone you are grateful for their thoughts and actions towards you will make you both feel good.
A truly effective manager sets up those around them to succeed. Good managers empower their employees to do well by giving opportunities to excel.
Passing around a smile to as many people as possible makes you feel good as well as them! Don’t judge their reactions, don’t take it personally if they don’t want to join in, and do keep persisting!
Forgiveness is letting go of the pain and accepting what has happened, because it will not change. Forgiveness is dismissing the blame. Choices were made that caused the hurt; we each could have chosen differently, but we didn’t. Forgiveness is looking at the pain, learning the lessons it has produced, and understanding what we have learned.
Forgiveness does not mean that you let anyone off the hook, it means that your present happiness is more important than your past suffering. Forgiveness does not mean that you condone the hurtful things done to you, it means that you reclaim your right to run your own life.
Micromanaging someone is inefficient with time, since there are two people doing the same task: one standing around telling the other exactly what to do, the other blindly following orders and not really learning or understanding , or needing to understand, the complexity of the task and how they should go about it in a way that makes sense to them.
There are three aspects of forgiveness: forgiving ourselves, being forgiven and forgiving others. Forgiveness resolves the past so you can live happily in the present.
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Micromanaging someone – managing their every thought and move – denies them of the opportunity to learn from the experience themselves and become self-sufficient at the task.