Recognise drama triggers
If you don’t want to change how often you see someone who makes you feel stressed, recognise drama triggers. When the conversation moves toward their favourite horrible situation, steer it somewhere else.
Short messages on Relationships issues from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
As your feelings for one another deepen over time, the relationship should progress to reflect that. When partners place at least some responsibility for the success of the relationship on themselves, they ultimately will get more from each other.
If you’re wanting love from a partner, think about whether or not you want to hold off physical intimacy until you really get to know them. If you become intimate too soon you may be thinking ‘Oh, now we’re a couple,’ while they may be thinking ‘Oh boy that sure was fun.’
By acknowledging that there will always be challenges and difficulties along the way, couples can develop a more realistic expectation of married/couple life, one that will go a long way toward keeping them together.
While the exhilarating feeling of new love may fade as time goes by, couples who stay together and work through their difficulties often find that happiness, and a good deal of the passion, returns in the long run.
Good relationship expectations include thinking about what you bring to the relationship, not what you get from it, understanding that heady passion may not last, but love does, and that you can work through problems to have a stronger relationship in the end.
To keep yourself from expecting too much too soon, experts say not to rush into sex, and to let the relationship deepen slowly over months.