A lot of the drama in our life takes place in our own heads, usually because we’re too deeply immersed in a difficult situation to recognise it isn’t as dire as it seems.
You may see small mistakes as evidence that you’re unworthy. You may interpret your challenges as proof that you’re incompetent. Neither of these things are true, and you don’t have to believe them.
Byron Katie said “It’s not your job to like me. It’s mine.” There’s a difference between depending on people for support and depending on them for self-esteem.
“Is this situation going to matter a year from now? If not, it’s not worth worrying about.” – Angela Orr
Build a reputation for not participating in drama. Speak less, listen more. Be an observer. You have time to hear and see the drama and sidestep it. Not everything needs a reaction.
We need you out here in the world; don’t cheat us of your gifts by getting stuck in low self-esteem.
Healthy self-esteem requires self-understanding, acceptance, and forgiveness, plus large doses of self-compassion. It needs ongoing vigilance and upkeep until you’ve formed healthier habits of self-esteem.
“I zoom out in my mind to a point far enough away and above so that I can see things in my life for what they are. By doing this, I can see from a distance how small and unimportant the situation is in the big scope of the universe.” – Larry Stilts
Sometimes the right path is not the easiest one.
Self-esteem rises when you know you can trust yourself, when you trust your own instincts and intuition over the ideas of others, and when you’ve proven to yourself that you can face disappointment and frustration without becoming destabilised.