Short messages on Mental health, stress and anxiety issues from Respect Yourself, the guidance site for young people to help make good decisions in life.
“Envy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.” – Harold Coffin
Comparing what you have to what others have is a good way to make yourself miserable. Focus on yourself when it comes to comparing.
Your new habit isn’t some sort of sacrifice, some sort of chore you need to get through to get to your better life. The new habit should be something you will enjoy as part of your better life.
One glass of water a day. One extra vegetable. Three pushups. One sentence of writing a day. Two minutes of meditation. This is how you start a habit that lasts.
You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.
Most people get farther with a habit when they start small. Make it so easy you can’t say no. Actually doing the habit is much more important than how much you do, at the start.
To change a habit, identify the trigger/routine/reward and what isn’t working for you, then choose and practise new, better ones until the repetition forms the new habit.
Every habit you have – good and bad – has the same pattern: Trigger (that initiates the behaviour), Routine (the behaviour itself; the action you take), Reward (the benefit you gain from doing the behaviour).
Positive self-talk creates positive self-image and self-esteem, leading to positive self-talk. Take control of your self-talk and start a positive cycle.
Never put the key to your happiness in someone else’s pocket.