“Expectations” are when you feel pressure to achieve certain goals, behave in a particular manner or even look a certain way. They can challenge or motivate you to do your best; however, unrealistic expectations could have a negative impact on your thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
The emotional pain that we are dealing with are really only thoughts.
Stress is a natural part of a hard work, but it doesn’t have to cripple you. Take a break, breathe, and slowly work through it.
Give yourself a comforting message every time you get lost in a painful scenario. Try: “This is a moment of suffering. May I give myself the compassion I need.”
Remember that short-term stressors resolve themselves once the situation is over.
Every time you discover you are thinking negative thoughts, tell yourself gently but firmly, “Drop it!” then immediately turn your attention to the world around you.
When it happens, notice the negative thinking pattern, label it, and let it float away. Decide to stop dwelling on the idea.
Going over the same negative feelings again and again can make things worse, because it encourages you to remain in that negative place.
The intrusive thoughts when leaving a task unfinished to focus on something else mean that you may experience anxiety. Getting a task done means peace of mind.
Henry David Thoreau said, “To make a deep mental path we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.” Make a specific plan to change your mind for the better.