If you are used to telling yourself that you’re ugly, that you are destined to fail, and that you’re not capable of performing in the world without someone holding your hand, then you will accept and feel most comfortable in relationships with people who reinforce these same negative beliefs.
The more you become your real self, the more you find that place inside you that is really about who you are, the more comfortable you’re going to feel in listening to yourself.
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If you base your self-worth on how often people compliment and validate you, then you’re allowing others to decide how you feel about yourself.
You don’t need anyone’s approval. Just because someone isn’t happy with you doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. In many cases, it’s often that the person isn’t happy with themselves.
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When you are living in the moment, you know that this moment leads to the next one; that life is a series of connected moments. You make conscious decisions – based on your beliefs and values – and you take responsibility for your choices.
When you are living for the moment, there are no potential consequences. You do something that makes you feel good right now, in this moment. But often, it’s a surprise to find out that there are consequences to pay.
When you feel anxious in a new situation and are unsure of what to do, look through the messages on this website to see which ones help.
Mindfulness enables you to experience and appreciate your life instead of rushing through it, constantly trying to ‘be’ somewhere else – including dwelling in the past, or in the future.