When others can’t do something themselves, they’re going to tell you that you can’t do it either; and that’s a lie. These people are simply speaking from within the boundaries of their own limitations.
Think about your friends and your boyfriend/girlfriend. Ask yourself: What should a healthy relationship provide for the people in it?
Surround yourself with people who inspire you to smile. People who help you up when you’re down. People who would never take advantage of you. People who are honest and genuinely care. They are the ones worth keeping in your life.
If you are used to telling yourself that you’re ugly, that you are destined to fail, and that you’re not capable of performing in the world without someone holding your hand, then you will accept and feel most comfortable in relationships with people who reinforce these same negative beliefs.
Practice your expressions in the mirror. If you make a sour face when talking to others, you’ll often get this back. Try a genuine smile instead, and see the difference.
Get a better understanding of your weaknesses and build a team around you that are good in those areas you are not.
Finding it hard to talk about how you are really feeling? Samaritans is a safe place to turn; it’s anonymous and confidential: 08457 90 90 90 or jo@samaritans.org .
The NHS offers free postal test kits for Chlamydia in many areas, for you to do yourself at home. Get yours from http://freetest.me
You don’t always notice symptoms if you have an STI. Many people don’t notice symptoms and most people with chlamydia have no symptoms. You won’t always know if you’ve got an STI and you can’t tell by looking if someone has one. Protect yourself by always using a condom. If you’re worried, visit your GP or sexual health clinic.