If you base your self-worth on how often people compliment and validate you, then you’re allowing others to decide how you feel about yourself.
You don’t need anyone’s approval. Just because someone isn’t happy with you doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. In many cases, it’s often that the person isn’t happy with themselves.
Being assertive is neither passive nor aggressive: you act and encourage others to be open and honest about their views, wishes and feelings, so that both parties act appropriately.
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Aggressive behaviour includes being loud and opinionated, dominating the conversation, often interrupting, and rarely listening. If they disagree with you, this is often done with sarcasm or a putdown.
Knowledge alone is not what creates high performance. Closing the gap between what we know and what we do will have far more impact on performance than any additional knowledge we might gain.
By responding passively, individuals are more inclined to portray themselves in a negative light or put themselves down and, as a result, may actually come to feel inferior to others.
Never make a permanent decision based on a temporary mood.
Responding in a passive or non-assertive way tends to mean compliance with the wishes of others and can undermine individual rights and self-confidence.
When you are living in the moment, you know that this moment leads to the next one; that life is a series of connected moments. You make conscious decisions – based on your beliefs and values – and you take responsibility for your choices.