Most judgments of others are ego strategies to avoid uncomfortable feelings. If you lack the awareness of where they come from, they can lead to even more discomfort later.
Sometimes it’s best to avoid tempting situations instead of trying to boost your willpower. Knowing your triggers, both good and bad, should help you avoid those moments where your willpower is challenged.
When sexting goes badly, it can make you feel ashamed, guilty, embarrassed or anxious about what people might say. The sooner you talk to a trusted adult, the more likely you can stop the image from being shared further.
What would you like to add to your life? What new things interest you? How could you share your gifts with the world? What inspires you about each possibility?
Don’t try to change everything at once. Focus on one thing at a time. Appreciate the space that opens up when you do, and how your overall energy level and outlook changes in response.
Brainstorm at least 3 ways you can change, reduce or eliminate each irritant/root cause in your life. Some things you can do right away, others are first steps toward bigger plans.
Continue to ask yourself why something bothers you until you get to the real problem – understand what is really draining your energy and causing you distress so you won’t repeat it.
Be yourself – whoever you are, however you feel, whatever life has thrown at you. If things are tough, talk about it. Samaritans can be reached on 08457 90 90 90 or jo@samaritans.org .
Sometimes people send naked photos because they are made to feel guilty. They might say “I sent you a photo, so where’s mine?” or say that you “promised” them. This is emotional blackmail and can make you think that you ‘owe’ them when you do not.
If someone is asking you for naked photos, ask them to stop or just don’t reply at all. If they’re still bothering you or making you feel upset it’s OK to block them – even if it’s just for a bit.