You were born an original
You were born an original. Don’t die a copy.
You were born an original. Don’t die a copy.
If you base your self-worth on how often people compliment and validate you, then you’re allowing others to decide how you feel about yourself.
You don’t need anyone’s approval. Just because someone isn’t happy with you doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. In many cases, it’s often that the person isn’t happy with themselves.
Being assertive is neither passive nor aggressive: you act and encourage others to be open and honest about their views, wishes and feelings, so that both parties act appropriately.
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Aggressive behaviour includes being loud and opinionated, dominating the conversation, often interrupting, and rarely listening. If they disagree with you, this is often done with sarcasm or a putdown.
When you blame others, you give away your power to get something fixed – so instead involve people to create something greater than the problem you are trying to solve.
Responding in a passive or non-assertive way tends to mean compliance with the wishes of others and can undermine individual rights and self-confidence.
Assertiveness is based on balance. It requires being forthright about your wants and needs while still considering the rights, needs, and wants of others.
“Assertiveness” is the ability to speak up for ourselves in a way that is honest and respectful, and helps us do the things we want to do. This skill can be learned.