by Dr Pam Spurr
Psychologist and children’s author Dr Pam Spurr shares crucial tips for your happiness with Respect Yourself!
Her new book Eva the Bear and the Magic Snowflake is available now.
Be yourself – whoever you are, however you feel, whatever life has thrown at you. If things are tough, talk about it. Samaritans can be reached on 08457 90 90 90 or jo@samaritans.org .
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Don’t let a bad situation affect the outcomes of other things during the rest of your day. Any ‘bad day’ can be put ‘right’ if you decide to.
Beware of trying to plan things that will make you ‘happy’. Instead, plan things you think are ‘right’ or things that will make you feel good about yourself.
We cannot control what other people do or say. If you cannot control it, don’t let it upset you. Take control of your own happiness by choosing how you let situations and people affect you emotionally.
Randy Stiver once noted that “happiness must be pursued by personally choosing the right thoughts, right words and right actions at the right time.” In short, our happiness depends on us.
Being happy within ourselves simply means showing mercy to ourselves, forgiving ourselves, befriending ourselves, accepting ourselves, and loving ourselves. It’s a lifelong journey that requires regular self-examination and an ongoing process of making peace with ourselves.
Have you ever found yourself standing in front of the mirror and yelling at yourself or hating yourself? Do you understand what it feels like to be completely disgusted with yourself and longing for a change? We often spend time upset about something, allowing our environment and circumstances to dictate whether or not we are going to be happy. The truth is that we can live our lives with happiness and decide that we are going to do whatever it takes to be happy. You can be happy if you have the mind to.