Stick up for yourself
Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.
Your needs matter. If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.
People have feelings come up that are difficult to tolerate, and unconsciously send them away. This is known as repression. To avoid these uncomfortable feelings, our minds often employ defense mechanisms like pain or anxiety.
You don’t need to bully yourself, pressure yourself, or scare yourself with your thoughts. The first step towards self-compassion is noticing these thoughts as they arise.
You need to care about the fact that you’re suffering before you can really work toward changing it.
Abusing yourself psychologically has consequences. Just as a child might rebel if treated abusively or neglectfully, the body can rebel as well in the form of pain, anxiety, or depression.
There are three primary ways that people psychologically abuse themselves: self-criticism, putting pressure on themselves, and unnecessary fear.
Finding it hard to talk about how you are really feeling? Samaritans is a safe place to turn; it’s anonymous and confidential: 08457 90 90 90 or jo@samaritans.org .
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Create a charter as a school or group to make bullying unacceptable. Define rules and guidelines for how you should all treat each other and work together to make a positive difference everyday.
White Pine’s “Defenders” show that bullying behaviour is ‘uncool’ and that social status in school comes from being kind to each other.